Daddy
From the very beginning, he was supportive. He may not always show he cares, he may not always talk nicely to the kids and he may loose his temper fast, but he loves his children deeply. He prepares everything in advance for the kids and make sure that everything is in order. Little things that other people might take for granted he always plan ahead. Every child is his pride so as our latest addition.
Every night, he lies down beside JE, watch her with affection and that night I even heard him said “she is so cute”.
Mummy
It has been tough for me at the beginning when I found out that I was pregnant with JE. She was unplanned and I am so stubborn to accept her. Adding on to the anguish was the screening result that shows that there is a high possibility that she might be a DS child. There were times that I told myself to accept her wholeheartedly, but most time I was living in resentment. I have been on an emotional roller coaster ride. But I am glad that the moment I held her in my arm, all the negative thoughts vanish.
She is part of the brood, she is just like any of my other children. I am glad that I am able to bond with her at birth and I know I will love her just as much as I love her siblings.
JS
The night I was away in the hospital, JS asked my mum why I have so many babies. I am not too sure why she asked. I am worried that she feels less love and insecure again.
The moment she saw baby (she was the last to see baby , as the kids never get a chance to go to the hospital, due to the express check in and check out!!), she was very excited. She can’t wait to carry baby, but she also knows that she just got back from school and she needs to shower first before she carries baby ( I need not ask her to). The whole night she asked to carry baby, she lies beside baby, keep touching her.
The first thing she does when she got back from school now is not lingering outside with her friend but came straight to see baby. Even when she is doing her homework, she get distracted and keep popping in to check on baby.
She told me “This is my baby, not yours”
She also told me “Mummy, next time I want to have 4 children like you” I told her it is very painful to give birth. She said “Mummy can do it, I also can!”
I hope she will be a good sister to little JE
WH
The happy go lucky boy. We told him that baby looks like him and that the birth experience was just like when I gave birth to him. He feels very related to baby about that.
He had been a little under the weather the day after I got back from the hospital, hence he had not really have the energy to entertain baby or look at her.
This two day he is back to his normal self, but the way he interacts with baby is different from the girls. Typical boy’s “tidak apa” attitude.
He will bring his toys to show JE, but I forbid him as it may accidentally hit on baby’s head.
The first night when I was home, he asked me “Mummy, how can doctor stop baby growing in the tummy?” I told him about taking pills etc. Then he said ” Can you PLEASE make one more. It is so unfair, so many girls. Make one boy for me please” I told him that is it expensive to raise another child, more over we will have to compromise on the quality time. He said nevermind, he wants a brother. When I firmly tell him that no, this will be our last, I can see tears in his eyes, disappointment written all over his face. Poor boy.
JL
She makes me proud. She assumed to the big sister role extremely well. She’s the first to see baby (as she is the only one at home the time I arrived home, WH was still in school, JS just gone to school). She was so fascinated with the new toy, she keep touching baby and checking her out. When I wanted to hug her (since I was away for a night) , she said “no need, go hug baby”
The first night in the wee hours, she was woken up by baby’s cry. She climb over to baby and pat her and said “don’t cry” and even help me when I changed baby.
She has been so helpful with fetching the things for changing baby. She pat baby when baby cries. She pull up my shirt and ask me to feed baby and even want to help baby to latch on by pushing the teats into baby’s mouth. She reminded her brother and sister not to stand /walk/jump on the bed, she reminded them not to touch baby’s head and be gentle but she herself being still a baby can be careless when touching baby (but she doesn’t mean harm).
I didn’t wrap baby up in the afternoon, she held baby’s hand and said baby’s cold and went to fetch the swaddle and insist of me wrapping baby up.
I am really proud of her as she is behaving and reacting so well and overly matured to.