I’m an advocate of attachment parenting. What’s is attachment parenting? Actually it’s the most natural and basic way of bringing up your child, following your parental instints, listen to your heart. Before I even come to know the term “attachment parenting”, I’m already practicing with without realizing there is a name for it.

Attachment parenting according to Dr Sears is a connecting tools, interactions with your child that help you and your child to get connected.

The baby B’s of attachment parenting (The connecting tools)
1) Birth bonding
2) Breastfeeding
3) Babywearing
4) Bedsharing
5) Belief in baby’s cries
6) Balance and boundaries
7) Beware of baby trainers
And it’s believes that by practicing this, you will have a higher chance to raise a child with the A’s and C’s qualities

A’s
Accomplished
Adaptable
Adept
Admirable
Affectionate
Anchored
Assured

C’s
Caring
Communicative
Compassionate
Confident
Connected
Considerate
Cuddly
Curious (Inquisitives)

When I got to know more about it, I can’t help myself nodding and agreeing to it. It’s the most natural way and it’s just plain commen sense.

Birth bonding: It’s so natural one wants to bond with the kids. For me the moment I delivered them, I want to have them close to me and I have developed these separation anxiety when they were put in the nursery.

Breastfeeding: Everyone knows breastfeeding is the golden choice to provide nutrition to the baby. I failed badly the first time, but at least for the first 3 months, my girl has got the best I could ever offered.

Babywearing: When WH was very young and me without a maid, it’s just so natural for me to wear him and do housework at the same time. Even though it might take double a time to accomplish a simple task. I just couldn’t leave him crying or being disturbed by the sister. Even now, when we go out, I still wear my baby when he’s too tire to walk. The beauty is we don’t need to have 2 stroller. 1 for the sister is good enough.

Bedsharing: Again, it came so natural to me and hubby and we have never think twice that things should be the other way round

Belief in baby cries: DONT EVER BELIEVE IN CRY IT OUT METHOD. IF YOU DO, YOU ARE ONE HEARTLESS PARENT. Me and hubby are having different views on bringing up the child. He always blame me of spoiling them, giving them too much face. But again, he will never have let the baby cry for more than a minute. We would quickly drop everything and attend to our kids. (Though now that JS already so big, when she cries, we know she’s just plain manja, we would scold her instead for doing so sometimes), so does anyone in the family. No one in the family thinks that the baby cries is manipulating us. It’s a way young babies communicate to us since they can’t talk. We just have to listen and we will surely be able to find out the reason of their cries. Only if we are careful enough to notice the different type of cries and only when you know your baby well. (This can be achived by bonding)

Balance and boundaries: Don’t neglect your own need. Go for a spa, or have a longer bath without the kids bothering you. Let your hubby do the work and time for them to bond too. When you can take care of yourself and are refresh enough, you will surely be able to respond to your kids appropriately. And I also finds that with a harmonious home, they child will grow up more healthily.

Beware of baby trainers: Again follow your heart. I care not about what other people say, I just do what I think is right for my kids following their cues (as a mother that spent most of the time with them, I certainly know my kids better than anyone does) especially when I have been showed with a restrained style of baby care from people that don’t have kids their own and want to act smart from what they have heard.

More Reads:
http://www.attachmentparenting.com/