Jan 16 2013
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Brought the children to the playground yesterday evening. There were these 2 kids and mum group which we have not met before. (Boy about age 5-6, girl about 2++) . We didn’t pay much attention to them initially and proceed with our own fun, as there are also other kids around which my children know them. But then after staying on a while, something got into our nerves badly and we can’t possibly ignore these new comers to our playground. This mum is a HELICOPTER MUM!
She is so annoying with her NOs, DON’Ts, CAN’Ts and FOLLOW THE RULE. Every sentence she speak is with a “NO” , “DON’T” , “FOLLOW THE RULES”. She keeps yelling at her children to follow the rules especially when the kids were on the slide. (Her rules were climb up the steps accordingly and slide down and repeat… no other ways are allowed on the slide) Oh, c’mon, give the children a break and let their creativity runs. I can hear her son protest “But MUM.. I am just trying to help!” (helping another boy who is also on the slide). As long as the kids are not in harm to themselves and others, why not let them explore other ways of playing?
I do understand that some mums do so because they are concern that her own kids might cause discomfort to other people around (especially those with angels/special kids), or she knows that her kids are rowdier. But from my observation, these two kids are just plain normal kids doing what any other normal kids would do at the playground.
We regulars at the playground, do say Don’t and Nos when necessary, but often we – mums, babysitters, maids, fathers, we sit aside and watch over our children (unless for very young babies and toddlers) and let them play freely. But this mum, hovers around her children, waving out the hanky and running after her kids to wipe their sweat. Everything to her also “CAN’T’. I wonder what’s the point of bringing the kids outdoor , to the playground and have so many restriction.
JS and me found her to be so annoying that we wanted to leave the playground, we would have if she stays on for another minute. But thank goodness, she left not long after.
I updated my FB status on this matter and I got respond asking me what did the mum say exactly. My friends were worried that they are like helicopter mums too. And oops..i have come to realize they do have restriction on their kids.
I have came to realize, maybe some mums deem my kids as rowdy, samseng when they are at the playground. My kids have all sort of ways to play on the slide, swings and bars. And the way they play catch with their neighborhood friends at the park may not get approval from mums who want they kids to play by rules. It may not occur to us all the times, as everyone at the playground plays like my children, but now I remembered there were a few occasion that mum did pull their kids out early thinking my kids are bad influence. And usually they are not from our neighborhood, coz they don’t walk/cycle to the park…they came by car. So as the helicopter mum yesterday, I don’t think they are our neighbors, as they came by car.
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